Free Guide: What to Say to a Friend After a Miscarriage

Losing a pregnancy can be a devastating and isolating experience for a person and knowing what to say to a friend after a miscarriage can be hard. As a friend or loved one, it's important to remember that your words and actions can have a significant impact on the person going through this difficult time.

Here are some tips on what to say, and what not to say, when supporting a friend after a miscarriage.

What to say:

1. "I'm sorry for your loss." This simple statement acknowledges the pain and loss that your friend is going through.
2. "I'm here for you." Let your friend know that you are available to listen, to cry, or to just be there for them in whatever way they need.
3. "I can't imagine what you're going through." This statement shows that you understand that this is a difficult and painful experience for your friend.
4. "It's okay to grieve." Remind your friend that it's okay to feel sad and to take time to process their feelings.

What not to say:

1. "Everything happens for a reason." This statement can come across as dismissive and can make your friend feel as though you are trivializing their loss.
2. "At least you can try again." This statement can make your friend feel like their miscarriage is not a significant loss.
3. "You should be over it by now." Grief is a process and there is no timeline for when it should be over.
4. "It was probably for the best." This statement can make your friend feel like their baby was not wanted or loved.

Free Guide to Support

This is a good starting place. If you are struggling to find the right words to say, it may be helpful to download our free guide, "Say this, not that." This guide includes a list of supportive phrases and tips on how to be there for your friend during this difficult time. Additionally, it outlines what not to do during this time - such as compare experiences.

Remember, the most important thing you can do is to be there for your friend and to let them know that you care. If you are unsure of what to say or do, it's okay to say that. Your friend will appreciate your honest and heartfelt support.