I'm Jealous My Sister Is Pregnant After I've Had a Miscarriage

First off - know you are not the first sister or only sister, to feel jealous your sister is pregnant after you've had a miscarriage. It can be incredibly difficult to watch anyone, let alone a loved one get pregnant easily, especially when you have experienced a miscarriage(s). It's normal to feel jealous, sad, and frustrated. Here are a few things you can do to help cope with these emotions:

Talk to your sister

It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your sister about your feelings. She may not be aware that her pregnancy is impacting you. She may be able to offer you a different type of support. And chances are, she will be incredibly understanding of where you are coming from.

What you're not asking your sister to do is hide or feel guilty about her own pregnancy. You of course want to support her as well during this exciting time, but she can also support you.

Talk to your family

Your family may be celebrating your sister right now and unaware of how you feel. While you're also wanting to celebrate her, letting your family know how you are feeling may allow them to understand your situation better and be able to support you differently.

Seek support

It can be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor, who can help you process your emotions and provide you with coping strategies.

Matriiva offers on-demand support for those who have experienced a pregnancy loss. We have on-demand courses for early pregnancy loss (known as a miscarriage) and late pregnancy loss (known as a stillbirth). These on-demand courses are meant to fill the gap the healthcare system leaves when someone experiences a loss.

Often times our healthcare systems are overwhelmed that miscarriages can be easily dismissed in a healthcare. We want to ensure all women and couples have equal and adequate access to the support they need as they navigate this challenging time.

Practice self-care

Taking care of yourself is crucial during this time. If you want to watch more Netflix than you normally would - go for it. And don't feel guilty. If getting out for walks and fresh air has always been something that makes you feel good, do it. Eat well (and order that pizza too!), and don't forget about sleep. But most importantly - do what you want. Do what makes you feel good. Practice whatever self-care means to you and not what any blog post says.

Be generous with yourself

Allow yourself to feel your emotions. It's important to acknowledge and accept your feelings of jealousy and sadness. They are valid and normal reactions to a difficult situation. Feeling jealous because your sister is pregnant after you've had a miscarriage is normal. Know that.

Your sister's pregnancy doesn't devalue your own journey

Remember that your sister's pregnancy doesn't change your own journey. Just because your sister got pregnant easily, doesn't mean that your experience was any less valid or important. Everyone's journey is unique, and it's important to focus on your own healing and progress.

It's important to remember that it's okay to feel jealous and sad. It's a normal part of the healing process. With time, support, and self-care, you will be able to move forward and find peace in your own journey. It's also important to remember that your sister's pregnancy is not a reflection of your worth as a person or your ability to have children.

If you are looking for more support, check out our free resources tab and our on-demand course offerings.