If your friend has recently experienced a miscarriage, you may be wondering how you can help her through this time. A miscarriage can be a devastating and emotionally difficult experience. It is important to be there for your friend and to offer her the support and care she needs. But many wonder how.

Let's take a look at some ways you can help a friend through a miscarriage.

How to Help a Friend through a Miscarriage: 6 Suggestions

Check-in & Listen

One way to help a friend after a miscarriage is to listen to her and validate her feelings. This means allowing her to express her emotions, and acknowledge that what she is feeling is normal and valid. It can be tempting to try to fix the situation or to offer advice, but it is important to simply be there for her and to let her know that you are listening and that you care.

While everyone means well, avoid offering support by starting any sentence with "at least..."

• "at least it was early..."
• "at least you know you can get pregnant..."
• "at least you're young and healthy..."
• "at least you're not alone, this happens all the time..."

While these sentences may sound comforting - they are not helpful. They put the person who is going through the miscarriage in a space where they feel like they are just meant to be "okay" with the miscarriage when the reality is they are deep in their grief.

Send Something to their Doorstep

As much as your friend loves you, there is a really good chance she actually doesn't want to see anyone right now. You can help a friend through a miscarriage by sending her favorite food delivery to her door, dropping off her favorite treat, or delivering a care package to her front step. This can make a world of difference.

Pop her a quick text once the delivery is there. She knows you're thinking about her and doesn't feel obligated to have a conversation in person right now. 

Offer to Help Out

Another way to help a friend through a miscarriage is to help her with practical tasks and responsibilities. This can include offering to run errands, take care of household chores, or help with any children she may have. By taking on some of these tasks, you can give your friend the time and space she needs to grieve and take care of herself.

What is often unknown for many who have never experienced a miscarriage what the physical recovery entails. Depending on the type of miscarriage your friend experienced, their body is likely moving through the pregnancy for up to 2 weeks. This is the equivalent of a heavy period. 

We all know what it is like to have one of those - but as someone going through the miscarriage, it is a constant reminder and can limit what activities they are wanting or able to right after the miscarriage.

Gift a Resource

So often we want to give our friend a gift that shows our care and understanding - but sometimes that is hard to find. We have friends and loved ones gift our Miscarriage Support Course all the time as a way to provide support and comfort as a friend navigates a miscarriage.

Educate Yourself

Although miscarriages are so common (too common!) education about them is shockingly minimal. Do not rely on your friend to educate you about what they are going through right now - educate yourself as well.

Understand what a miscarriage is and what the physical recovery process entails. Having a very heavy period for up to 2 weeks is extremely common if you have miscarried naturally or have had a miscarriage induced. If your friend has had a D&C, they have just gone through surgery, and while the bleeding isn't as heavy or long, mentally it is a challenging experience for many.

By educating yourself, you can better understand what your friend is going through. You will be able to offer more informed and supportive advice.

Know Everyone is Different

Our final suggestion on how to help a friend through a miscarriage is to remember that everyone's experience with a miscarriage is unique and that your friend's experience may be different from others. It is important to be patient and to allow her the time and space she needs to grieve and heal. By offering emotional support, practical assistance, and understanding, you can be a valuable source of support for your friend during this difficult time.

There are many ways to help a friend through a miscarriage but it is good to remember that there is no one right way to do it. Your friend will be grateful for you in whichever way you show up for them.